Sometimes we realize that what we might have wanted at an earlier stage in life is not what we want now. Perhaps choices about work and career that we made in the past no longer work for us.
Sometimes this reflection is a result of pure exhaustion. Perhaps you’ve hit burn out. Or, you realize that, if you stay on your current path, you will burn out.
I’ve spent too much time doing work I don’t care about (or that just doesn’t feel like a fit for me), giving it all my energy in order to “succeed”, then having nothing left for what really matters to me.
It’s at this point when it makes sense to consider what success means to YOU. Forgetting what anyone else thinks or expects, what does success look and feel like to you? Is it measured in dollars or job titles or designer clothes or a large property that you have to come up with mortgage payments for?
To me, this question is where to start when considering midlife career changes. This is the time to create your ideal lifestyle from the inside out. To get creative about your possibilities. To kick convention to the curb.
Midlife is a time to focus on your freedom. Not to drearily count down the days until you can finally retire and start living the life you really want. You deserve to be happy now.
And for introverts, considering possibilities must be grounded in the truth of your energy needs. You must get clear about the specifics of what drains your energy and what recharges you.
Without this critical piece, I don’t think it’s possible to be fully happy in your work. That’s because, even if you love what you do, you can still end up feeling drained and having nothing left for the other parts of your life that matter.
In some cases, these questions will lead you to consider making significant changes in the work you choose to do next. In others, you may realize that what you do still feels good, but you want to tweak HOW you will do it moving forward.
“Change means movement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of a nonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasive friction of conflict.” ~ Saul Alinsky
Will it be easy to make the necessary changes to create a lifestyle that feels like a better fit for you? Of course not. It can be difficult to give yourself permission to even start asking the questions (you may be afraid of the answers that will surface).
But if you’re like me, you have a deep knowing – an inner nudge – letting you know that it’s your time. It has probably been there for a while.
When you’re ready to start accepting your truth so you can make changes that allow you to do work that is more in alignment with who you are and what you want now, I’m here to help you.
Consider this: What discomfort is arising in you as you read this post? That discomfort is a message. Don’t keep ignoring it.